Every once in a while, every man finds that he can’t form an erection. He usually finds it mortifying. What should you do if this occurs? First, support your partner. Let them know that it has nothing to do with them or how attractive you find them. It’s got something to do with you. If they’re still in the mood and you can muster up your courage, perhaps consider pleasing your partner orally or digitally. It may help breathe new life into your situation, or at least make your partner feel better. Next, it’s important to figure out what’s going on. If it’s only happened this once, don’t worry about it. Worrying could ensure that it happens again. But if it’s a common problem lately, you’ll need to investigate. Have you begun taking any new medications? Some have ED as a side effect, including antidepressants, opioid painkillers, and even antihistamines. Sometimes a change in medication or dosage can help things.
In a small but significant number of cases, anxiety or depression is at fault. With anxiety, this usually stems from low self-esteem. Think about if this is you. In most cases, anxiety isn’t the main issue but a contributing factor that worsens the situation, as anxiety itself can undermine the biological system which makes an erection possible. It’s best to remain calm, even if you cannot perform in a given moment. Smoking, substance abuse, or alcohol abuse can each cause it. If you think one of these is effecting you, it’s best to quit. If you need to, get into a program or with smoking, find a cessation program that works for you. There are cases where something has happened in the relationship. We sweep our feelings under the rug and pretend everything is fine. But our bodies know better. If this is the case, take it as a sign and have a heart-to-heart with your honey. If it’s none of these, consider that it’s a health problem. For that, see a doctor or urologist and get checked out.