Surviving cancer is a great accomplishment and relief. Unfortunately, many kinds of life-saving treatments leave ED in their wake. A vast majority of men recover functionality six months to a year after treatment. Complete functionality may not return for all, however. So in this case, how can you experience a fulfilling sex life for you and your partner?
It’s important to redefine sex. It can be just as lusty, passionate and satisfying post-cancer, but you may need to change your technique, repertoire, and perspective on the matter. Just because it has changed doesn’t mean it is any less fulfilling.
Managing ED post-cancer:
- First, consider slowing down. Focus on different aspects and how good they feel. Incorporate lots of foreplay. Aspects like oral and digital stimulation and toys can spice things up. For those who have the most severe dysfunction, satisfaction can be gained without any penetration at all, for both partners.
- If you have some functionality but are finding difficulty, try a new position. In standard missionary the thigh muscles and glutes absorb blood which is diverted from your erection. Instead, allow your partner to get on top or try positions where you lay on your side, allowing more blood to enter the penis.
- Discuss ED drugs with your doctor. Would you benefit from these? What are the side effects? Will they interfere with other medications you are taking?
- Consider non-drug options such as a vacuum tube or cock ring. Make sure you and your partner are relaxed and setting the mood.
- Incorporate erotica, explore new positions or fantasies, include outfits, role play, tease and denial or other such nuances to get your engine running and give you the best chance at success.
- For those with zero functionality, there are surgical implants available today which can restore ability.
Experiment, find out what options you have and see what works best for you. Be sure to follow up with your doctor or specialist. Studies have shown that many doctors fail to bring up changes in sexual function following cancer treatment, but sex is an important part of life. If your doctor doesn’t bring it up, broach the subject or consider speaking with a doctor who specializes in men’s sexual health.